10 Things I Wish People Would Have Told Me When I Was Pregnant: PART ONE
- There’s nothing like your first. Health wise, I had great pregnancies. However, no pregnancy is as enjoyable as your first. It’s all about you. If you’re tired, take a nap or go to bed right after work. I did. I would sleep from 5:15pm to 7:30am some nights. If you’re sick, call into work and stay in bed all day to watch a ‘Real Housewives’ marathon. If you don’t feel like making dinner, pick up something on your way home from work and call it a night. It’s heaven. Then you have the baby and decide ‘if I have one, I should probably have another’. Well guess what? It’s not like your first. Now you’re on either a baby’s/toddler’s/child’s schedule and that’s your first priority. I remember the first time I got a cold during my second pregnancy. I woke up feeling miserable and thought how am I going to take care of Jack all day? I can’t even stand up. Not to mention the worry of passing the cold to your other baby, but guess what? You have to. You suck it up and dote on baby numero uno all day while counting down the minutes until bedtime. Bottom line, ENJOY YOUR FIRST PREGNANCY.
- It’s ok to dream about your past life. It’s true, once you become a mom you can’t imagine your life without your new peanut, but that doesn’t mean you won’t catch yourself thinking, I miss those days. Those days when you could do anything you want, go anywhere you want, at anytime you want. Those days when leaving the house to run a quick errand didn’t involve packing a small suitcase, timing the outing around naps, feedings, and pumping schedules, and making sure your baby is bundled warmly and dressed cute while you look like you’ve been up all night (because you have). Those days are long gone the moment you come home from the hospital and it takes some getting used to. Once you get on a good schedule though, it all becomes easier and you wouldn’t trade your new life for anything.
- If your friends haven’t been pregnant, they won’t understand. It’s hard enough being pregnant and working or taking care of other kids, but sometimes, going out and socializing is the last thing you feel like doing. I’m all in favor of a relaxing girl’s night, but “going out” or weekend trips away, no thanks. For no other reason than pregnancy is just exhausting. It’s ok to want to stay in and watch a movie, order take-out, read, or ‘research’ things on the Internet. If you don’t feel like doing anything, don’t. There will always be another opportunity and your friends will come to understand that.
- When you sneeze, you pee. Simple as that.
- Naptime is sacred. I love when people call me and say “Hey! Do you want to get a babysitter while your kids are sleeping so we can go to lunch or run some errands?!” HELL NO I DON’T. I really want to get my laundry done, pick up my house, catch up on emails, and/or watch an entire ‘Law & Order: SVU’ marathon. Babysitters are to be hired to tire your kids out, so that when you return home, they’re ready for naps.